Sometimes, when I say, “I’m fine,” I want someone to look me in the eyes and say, “tell me the truth.”
Do you ever want this? For someone to look at you and ask you to tell the truth of how you are really doing? Would you be able to be honest and truthful? With that person? And with yourself?
I have mentored girls who have struggled with self injury, as well as eating disorders. I have been there myself. I have been looked at in the eyes, and have looked at other people in the eyes to that same question.
I didn’t want to be honest, a lot of the time. But the times I was, I found either the person was very concerned and wanted to listen, or they didn’t really seem to care at all. It was a hard road to balance, stepping out and risking being rejected again, but also to know that sometimes they wanted to hear me out, they wanted to know the pain behind my eyes.
It is heartbreaking to look into the eyes of another who is struggling, it isn’t an easy task to always listen to the nitty gritty details of another’s pain. But to see the relief in their eyes, to hear the relief in their voice afterwards, you know its the right thing to be done, and it makes it all worthwhile.
Be honest. Be brave. Be vulnerable. Be there to ask the difficult questions for that friend or family member.